When it comes to this time of year we often take a moment to reflect on the year gone by, but when a new decade is looming, I feel that period of reflection is greater.
Reflection is a great way to explore what we like and don’t like, what we want to bring forward with us and what we wish to leave behind.
There is a lot of talk about New Year’s resolutions, ones that are often started on the 1st of January, kept up for a while, but then are slowly forgotten about, possibly not even making it to the end of the month. I don’t do them, do you? The reason I don’t, is because they can often be things we think we should do, things that we might like to achieve, but really we don’t mind either way, so are heart isn’t in it.
From my own personal and professional experience and from working with my amazing clients, I’ve learned that when our heart truly desires something, we are more likely to achieve it. However, this only works if it comes from us, from within, not because we are told to and not because we think that is what other people want for us.
The power is when the desire for the outcome of the changed habit or behaviour comes from within and is more attractive than the current situation. I talk to people about this all the time and have done for many years, but sometimes we just have to discover it for ourselves.
So I invite you to think of goals you’ve achieved and goals you haven’t, what was the difference, what motivated you initially?
Now, going into the New Year and the new decade, what do you want to bring with you?
What do you want to leave behind?
What lessons has the last year or decade taught you?
What learning are you bringing forward?
What do you want to be different by this time next year?
New goals, dreams and changes in behaviour don’t need to happen just once a year, they can happen whenever you choose them to, whenever you feel ready; the important thing is it comes from within.
Conversely, we don’t always need to make changes, so don’t feel pressured too. Your dream may be for things to be just as they are, you may be really happy, content that is totally fine, in fact it is way more than fine, I believe it is an amazing wonderful gift. Many people search their whole life to find contentment, so value, appreciate, acknowledge and celebrate it! Just because society says we need to always be striving for something new, doesn’t make it true, there is real value in simply appreciating what is, what we have now, living happily in the present, so cherish that, I am so pleased for you.
However, if you find you know you want to make changes and just don’t know where to start, what you want to be different or how to go about it and are looking for support with that, then I can help, do get in touch for an informal chat or book yourself an introductory session.
Have a wonderful 2020 and my wish for you is that all your dreams come true whatever they may be!
Until next time,